Stop Suppressing Your Sadness, It’s Really Weird

I have a friend who’s always bluntly honest when I ask her how she’s doing.

We always ask and get asked the question “How are you?” as something of a greeting, and the answer is usually something dismissive alone the lines of:

“Good.”

“Fine.”

“Okay.”

The likes. And I get it—“How are you?” is more of a hello than anything. We say it to be polite and start conversations, a little tidbit so they know that we care about them before the real conversation starts. When we ask it, we sort of want to know how they’re doing, but not really.